Parallel Living
One thing that Matt’s anxiety does is it prohibits him from doing nothing. He often explains this to me as “when I just sit and do nothing my mind just spins.” Because of the spinning mind he hates just sitting to watch a movie or tv. The show or movie doesn’t hold is attention enough for him to solely focus on what he is watching. This is why he turns to video games so much.
We are not just sit together and watch tv people. I am a sit for hours and watch tv person, but we never do this together. This doesn’t mean we never just spend a relaxing evening at home together watching tv. It just means we do it a little differently than most. While we watch tv, Matt has a little tv on the coffee table that he plays video games on. We do this on Mondays when we watch Wrestling. I have learned over the years to be okay with this. It’s not that he doesn’t want to hang out with me, it just keeps him from falling back into a black hole with a racing mind.
Parallel living is something that works for us. I’m not a needy person at all, and I am okay just being in the house together. With that said, there are days where I wish we could cuddle on the couch and watch a movie. Although I sometimes wish we could be at couple that watches show after show after show together, for the most part I love just being in the same room.
The other day I had a lot going on in my head and I could not fall alseep. The next morning I said “man, I could not turn my brain off last night.” Matt said “that’s me, all the time.” The one night I had to deal with that was awful! I can’t imgine living that way all the time. No wonder Matt wants to stay busy and preoccupied, it’s the only way he can get some peace.
If your other half has anxiety and you’re noticing this is what he/she does please remember it is not person. The actions of a person with anxiety are rarely personal, rather just their way of coping. It’s hard being with someone who never stops, especially if you’re like me. I would be 100% okay with coming home everyday and just watching tv, but my brain shuts off the second I leave my classroom. Anxiety is a constant loop of overthinking. Sometimes the only way to drown out the overthinking is to focus on something else for as long as possible. Matt’s way of doing this is video games, and I will never take that away from him.
If you are on the other side of anxiety I see you, I hear you, I feel you.
We are the other side.
We are not just sit together and watch tv people. I am a sit for hours and watch tv person, but we never do this together. This doesn’t mean we never just spend a relaxing evening at home together watching tv. It just means we do it a little differently than most. While we watch tv, Matt has a little tv on the coffee table that he plays video games on. We do this on Mondays when we watch Wrestling. I have learned over the years to be okay with this. It’s not that he doesn’t want to hang out with me, it just keeps him from falling back into a black hole with a racing mind.
Parallel living is something that works for us. I’m not a needy person at all, and I am okay just being in the house together. With that said, there are days where I wish we could cuddle on the couch and watch a movie. Although I sometimes wish we could be at couple that watches show after show after show together, for the most part I love just being in the same room.
The other day I had a lot going on in my head and I could not fall alseep. The next morning I said “man, I could not turn my brain off last night.” Matt said “that’s me, all the time.” The one night I had to deal with that was awful! I can’t imgine living that way all the time. No wonder Matt wants to stay busy and preoccupied, it’s the only way he can get some peace.
If your other half has anxiety and you’re noticing this is what he/she does please remember it is not person. The actions of a person with anxiety are rarely personal, rather just their way of coping. It’s hard being with someone who never stops, especially if you’re like me. I would be 100% okay with coming home everyday and just watching tv, but my brain shuts off the second I leave my classroom. Anxiety is a constant loop of overthinking. Sometimes the only way to drown out the overthinking is to focus on something else for as long as possible. Matt’s way of doing this is video games, and I will never take that away from him.
If you are on the other side of anxiety I see you, I hear you, I feel you.
We are the other side.
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